Don’t doubt those feelings that you feel in your gut when someone doesn’t wish you well and doesn’t believe in you. Believe in yourself and be the stronger person by being kind but pulling away from them and move toward those who appreciate who you are now, who you’ll be in the future and especially who you were in the past. Appreciate those who are proud of your desires and growth and stay away from those who are not. It has taken me awhile to learn this and to finally have the strength to protect myself but now I am able to love those who give me light even harder, put that energy in my soul and receive the gifts the universe has been waiting to give. There is so much we are capable of receiving, we just need to learn how to outgrow that which we hold onto.
I find this to be the truth. The path to yourself is not so much “happiness,” it is a slow, sometimes painful, sad and ugly process–in a beautiful way, if that makes sense. I find that often times we only want to find the happy side yet in reality, to feel balance we need both extremes; we need to bounce from dark to light, light to dark, to find ourselves in the middle. In the middle is where we can truly meet ourselves, the self that is and will always be there.
During eons of evolution, from the simplest of living forms to the most complex, there has always been the day to day struggle to protect oneself. In our highly evolved cooperative social structures, this survival instinct has gone through evolutionary changes. Many of us no longer lack food, water, clothing or shelter; nor do we regularly face life threatening danger. As a result, the protective energies have adapted toward defending the individual psychologically, rather than physiologically. We now experience the daily need to defend our self concepts rather than our bodies. Our major fears end up being with our own inner fears, insecurities, and destructive behavior patterns and not with outside forces.
–from the book “The Untethered Soul”